This Time, Last Year

On Friday, I’m leaving town. It’s not the best time for me to be gone because we run a retail shop and it’s almost Christmas. And yet, it’s the best time for me to be gone because it’s almost Christmas. Dad died one year ago today, so I’m going to Colorado. It was Dad’s favorite … Continue reading This Time, Last Year

Thoughts on Double-Timing It

Two days before Christmas, I did this to my car. It was completely my fault, and adding insult to injury (actually, my injury was only a bruised leg and a stiff shoulder), I was ticketed for not yielding right of way. And we had to pay for the damage repair. And we lost our good driver … Continue reading Thoughts on Double-Timing It

On Mother’s Day: Two Women Remembered

There is a quiet debate these days about the politically correct word for mothers who give birth and then place their child for adoption. It's good to describe these adoption realities with sensitivity, but honestly, I lose track of what's in and what's out. As for my youngest daughter's circumstances: instead of being abandoned, she … Continue reading On Mother’s Day: Two Women Remembered

Another Amazing Woman Whose Genes I Don’t Share

This is my Granny Flonnie - the grandmother with the most sing-song name a kid could ask for. Her maiden name was Cromwell, but do not mistake her for a Victorian-era shrinking violet. I suppose her given name was Florence, but no one ever, ever called her that. She was Flonnie, a woman who was over … Continue reading Another Amazing Woman Whose Genes I Don’t Share

Dear Erin: A Birthday Letter on the Occasion of Turning 21

Dear Erin, This is your birthday, and I'm writing you an open letter. Yes, I could have done this privately - printed it out and tucked it in your birthday card - but you are a little bit like me and you lose things easily. So this way, we both know where the letter is: … Continue reading Dear Erin: A Birthday Letter on the Occasion of Turning 21

Exactly Two Months After 9/11: New Life

While the world was still reeling and the dust still settling in the wake of the 9/11 tragedy, we boarded a plane to fly across the world. Many people we knew who had booked overseas flights canceled after the terrorist strike, but we didn't. We couldn't. The clothes - size 12 months - had been … Continue reading Exactly Two Months After 9/11: New Life

Making My Own Father’s Day Card

I'm a cynic about the card holidays: Mother's Day, Father's Day, and Valentine's Day. I blame it on the fact that I am cheap, but the truth is that I always forget the card until the last minute and then have to pick through the leftover dregs. And in the midst of that, I grumble … Continue reading Making My Own Father’s Day Card

Let’s Grow Old Together

I almost fainted during my wedding portraits. Not because I was nervous, but because I bought a wedding dress that had not one inch to spare and I hadn't eaten for almost 24 hours. Which begs the question: if you aren't any smarter than that, are you really ready to take lifetime commitment wedding vows? Probably … Continue reading Let’s Grow Old Together

Road Trips, Starbursts, and Ram: A Technology Crisis

At the risk of redundancy, I'm writing again about technology. My last post (too many days ago) was about my father's typewriter, which he believed was great technology. This post is about my own devices, the greatness of which I'm beginning to doubt. Five days ago, my laptop had an accident that resulted in a … Continue reading Road Trips, Starbursts, and Ram: A Technology Crisis

A Valentines Day Tribute: Failures, Detours, and the Myth of the Perfect Marriage

I fell in love with my husband on our college campus when I was 19 and he was 20. He had shaggy blond hair and a smile that made me feel kind of tipsy. My friend introduced us as we passed him behind Raley Chapel and here's how the conversation went: (of course he has … Continue reading A Valentines Day Tribute: Failures, Detours, and the Myth of the Perfect Marriage

An Only Child’s Siblings: Cousins

I love this picture for so many reasons. It was December 29 when it was taken and the girls are in short sleeves and barefoot (gasp!). How many Oklahoma Decembers can our kids frolic in the backyard for hours in warm, sunny weather? Not many, and the key word in that last sentence is: in the … Continue reading An Only Child’s Siblings: Cousins

Advent Week One: The Manger Scene

When Alison was in her first Christmas pageant she was chosen to portray the mute and blessed Mary. I was so proud my daughter had landed such a plum role. Mary!  I helped her practice her serene gaze of love and told her to smile at Joseph every now and then. “Walk in slowly,” I … Continue reading Advent Week One: The Manger Scene

Little Girl and Young Woman: The Land Between

Warning: I'm about to sound like an old woman. When I was young, we called "flip-flops" something that is now unacceptable. We called them "thongs." I learned that lesson the hard way after I asked my oldest daughter in public - in the middle of Old Navy -  if she needed new thongs. "Flip-flops," she … Continue reading Little Girl and Young Woman: The Land Between